Top 7 First Date Ideas, Encore Edition
It's funny how, now that I have this blog, just about every conversation can be turned into a conversation about dating.  I'd just helped a friend move into a new apartment and we were sitting and talking about a great bakery/coffee place just a couple of blocks from his new place.  As an addendum to my recommendation I mentioned, "but it's horrible for dates". At which point we discussed the place's pros and cons for dating:  very public, great coffee, hard to get a table, loud/bad acoustics, centrally located/easy to get to.  And then we compared it to some other coffee places, i.e., the local Starbucks.  None of us were

Thankful? Sure
I have a lot to be thankful for.  No doubt about that.  No list today. AND I'm single.  And 39.  And that's one of things I'm thankful for. Because the life I'm leading right now:  starting over in my late 30s with a new career, meeting new people and being more social than I've been in years, that's all connected to my being single.  And none of it would be happening if I wasn't right where I am.  Single.  Living my life.  In this time and place. Frequent readers of this blog have heard me use the phrase, "I don't believe in much", on several occasions.  And it's true.  I am a firm disbeliever in

We All Make Compromises, But...
We all make compromises.  Well, most of us do.  Life isn't perfect.  Heck, sometimes it isn't even fair. As adults we learn to make the best of what we have (I'm so not a fan of making lemonade out of lemons.  I don't see why I can't appreciate a lemon for what it is.). That said, there are some compromises that I'm not prepared to make, ever.  Not prepared to, nor capable of, quite frankly. For example, I could never continue in a long-term relationship with a man if the sex wasn't good.  I just couldn't.  And yes, I've actually tried.  Great guy, could've fallen for him.  But the sex wasn't there.

Long Trip
I've spent the last 24 hours + in a car with a couple of friends.  Long story on why.  We've already driven through 3 and 1/2 states, soon to be 4.  We're making great time, and having fun (the two giant bags of snack food we bought for the ride have helped to keep us jolly). I'd just like to state for the record that I've never attempted a trip like this with a guy (one that I was romantically linked to).  Nor can I imagine doing so. Perhaps it's just that I have a limited imagination?  Or that I've never had the kind of relationship that was flexible enough to withstand this kind of abuse (3 strong-willed adults in

Public/Private: Drawing Lines
So I'm away this weekend. Well, I'm still away and it's Monday and so it's more of a long weekend.  I tweeted about it on Friday as I dealt with airport chaos, delayed flights and screaming children but have been pretty quiet since then. I'm still not entirely comfortable sharing too many details of my life.  Not here, nor on twitter or facebook.  And truthfully, not even with most of my friends. The number of people who I tell everything to is tiny.  And I kind of like it that way. And, in case you're wondering, there's only ever been one guy who's made it into that group. Usually I keep guys at arms le